Want to Get More Dates? Be Indifferent and Don’t Care About the Outcome
Mario C. - Dating Advisor | Mar 26, 2010 | Comments 4
This is part of the article "How to Act On a Date so You Make Her Want You Badly". Years ago, I was clueless about how to make a woman feel attraction towards me. I did many things wrong like:
- Giving them compliments so I could win them over
- Showing that I liked them
- Buying them dinners and expensive gifts
Obviously, women noticed my needy attitude… and ran away from me instantly.
With women the opposite is what works.
Over the years I’ve learned that these kind of behaviors lead to friendship, not sex. Hopefully, I read a few dating advice books and learned what to o instead.
How to Make Women Want You
Making women want you isn’t rocket science. If you use the tips I’m about to tell you you’ll become a man with a personality that is irresistible to women. Here are few things I learned from those great books:
- Don’t care: A man shouldn’t care too much about getting her into bed or about leaving a good impression. When women notice this, they become “the prize” and getting them into bed is almost impossible.
- Lean Back: A man need to lean back and relax when he speaks with women.
- Be cocky and funny: If you want to make her want you, be cocky and funny, bust her balls and make jokes about her. This turns her on and creates attraction.
- Just make ‘friends’ with her. When you try “to court her” most of the time she runs away from you. If you only try to make a new friend, she’ll start wanting to have sex with you. I know, I know, this might sound a bit ridiculous, but trust me on this. This is the way it works.
- Be aloof: Remember, with women the opposite is what works. Acting aloof to raises a woman’s “interest level” in you. Always.
- Bust her balls: …And tease her a bit more… yeah why not? Teasing women is the most powerful way to create attraction.
Be Indifferent, Never Give Hot Women Special Treatment
It's not that I want you to treat women disrespectfully. It's all about keeping the power in your court. Look, hot women are used to having all the power when they deal with men. Almost no men know how to keep them in their toes.
So, to be different from the rest, be indifferent to their beauty.
When you: treat all women the same and stop treating hot women like goddesses… … a very interesting thing happens. First, she feels very intrigued because… you're different that the others! You're not acting like a puppy dog who wants to give his whole attention to her. You are a real man! So be indifferent and stop giving her special treatment… even if she's really beautiful! And stop giving them so many compliments!
Don't Care About the Outcome
Don't care about women. Be indifferent towards them. Don't give a damn about the outcome with a woman. Especially, don’t show her that you’re too focused on:
- Getting a second date with her
- Finding the right moment to kiss her
- Leaving a good impression and so on
In you do that, you'll seem needy and hungry for sex!Women are REALLY clever when it comes to figuring out whether you want to get into her pants or not.
The can smell neediness a mile away… and most of the time they run away from you!
Instead, just relax! When you keep a calm, cool and relaxed attitude, you naturally attract women. Another reason you should stop caring is because most of the time, when you’re worried about leaving a good impression, unconsciously you'll show behaviors that reflects you’re not confident! And if a woman notices this, she’ll RUN AWAY! So try to avoid doing the following things:
- Displaying nervous tics
- Moving your hands too fast
- Answering her questions very fast
- Talking fast
- Giving her too much attention
- Looking at her like you’re a hungry bear…
- Asking her too many questions
- Looking her too much
I used behaving like this before. If you’re like this, to solve this problem just do the opposite.
- When you notice you’re talking fast, start speaking slower and relax.
- When you notice you’re giving her too much attention, act aloof and mysterious.
- When you notice you’re answering her questions very fast, stop answering them… or start answering them with a cocky and funny line.
Conclusion
Remember, with women the opposite is what works. So stop caring about the outcome. Just have a good time. Instead of focusing on getting her into bed, focus on make her your friend…. Talking about how you're going to be good friends on a date is a powerful dating strategy DoubleYourDating teaches. I don't want you to fall in the "let's just be friends" zone… this strategies help you to become a DIFFERENT guy. Someone who's not like the other 146 hungry guy who hit on her every day. I know that these tips sound crazy, but trust me, this will help you to get a girlfriend. I guarantee you this, because they have helped to get laid a lot.
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About the Author: Mario C. has been a Dating Advisor for more than 25 years. He has helped thousands of men from the US, UK, France and Australia to succeed with women.

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